The word friend means many different things to different people.
We have some friends who are in our inner circle and perhaps several or a few in our outer circles. We call some friends when we need to laugh and others when we want to cry. Some friends give us advice and listen to our stories and we return the favor. Here we are going to see four tips on how to be a better friend.
1. If you get the sense that your friend is depressed than you must inquire about it.
Depression is rampant and yes people do kill themselves and/or live with tremendous amounts of pain without ever talking about it. Mental health is an illness like any other. Ask about mood like you would ask about any other illness. The life you save may be your friend’s.
2. Your friend has experienced a major disappointment.
Do not ignore it because you feel awkward about addressing it. We all have a need to talk about that which ails us. Please ask your friend if s/he would like to talk about her divorce,death of her relative, illness etc.
3. When you talk to your friend pay attention to not only what s/he is saying but also to her body language including her voice.
She may say that she’s fine but her sad voice and posture may indicate otherwise. If you feel that the words and the body language are inconsistent then go for it and ask your friend how she is really feeling. Believe me this will be much appreciated.
4. Do not assume that your friend is over her/his grief or other source of pain simply because she/he is back to work and back to the usual routine.
Continue inquiring until your friend gives you the message that s/he will not benefit from addressing the issue.